Learning to Love My Unique Nose


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This post was written as a part of the Body: AMAZING Carnival co-hosted by Jennifer of True Confessions of a Real Mommy and Amy of Anktangle. Carnival participants were invited to write about how we learn to appreciate the ways our bodies grow and change. Our posts explain some incredible ways our bodies impress and amaze us.

Please read to the bottom to find a list of submissions from all of today’s carnival participants.



I’ve always had a love/hate relationship with my nose.

Yes, you read that correctly – my NOSE. That thing with nostrils (and sometimes nose hairs, boogers, or blackheads. . . ) that sits smack dab in the middle of your face.

Interestingly enough, my love/hate relationship with my nose is similar to that of Ashlee Simpson’s. I find it interesting that I have the same insecurity as a celeb. . . and a little depressing that she decided to undergo a cosmetic surgery in order to feel better about her sniffer.

Though she looks beautiful with a perfectly straight nose-slope, I think she was more gorgeous with her real nose.

And I’m starting to see that my nose is gorgeous, too, despite of it’s. . . erm. . . quirky shape.

Why I Hated My Nose

My hate for my nose is purely cosmetic. Growing up, I thought that my nose looked like a witches nose. I thought for the longest time that it was too large. Well, I guess my nose is not so much large, as it is, um, pointy? Strange? Different? Or is it, like Ashlee Simpson’s nose-insecurity, because of the bump in the bridge?

Interestingly enough, in high school, I was asked to model for a painting and drawing class specifically because of my facial profile. A lady at my family’s church had noticed my facial features (including my “ugly” olfactory organ) and approached my mother and father to ask them if she could request that I model for her drawing class because I had a “beautiful Roman profile.”

Still, after loads of people telling me that my nose was beautiful, that my face wouldn’t be my face without it, and that there was no reason to feel insecure . . . I still hated my nose. Until I started loving it.

Learning to Love My Unique Proboscis

Constantly trying to explain to myself why I don’t like my nose led me (after years of wrestling with my insecurities) to this simple thought:

My nose is unique to me, and it is similar in different ways to the noses of my ancestors. God gave me this nose – out of all the other possible genetic combinations, I got this one. And that is a truly special and wonderful thing.

My nose is a product of my mother and father, my grandmothers and grandfathers, and all of my biological relatives that have come before me. If I could see images of the ancestors in my family line, I’m sure there is one in our history that has the very same pointy, humped, quirky shaped nose as I do. And the wonder that surrounds who that person was, and thinking of my connection to all my familial ancestors and the miracle that is my comprehensive inherited facial features. . . it’s teaching me to love my previously hated schnoz.

Besides. . . apparently to some, I’ve got the nose of a Roman Goddess.

And I’m alright with that.

 


More to read and love about honoring our bodies at these other blogs. Please visit them all and leave some comment love!

Jennifer from True Confessions of a Real Mommy is moved to trust her body, even the fuzzy parts. You can also find Jennifer on Facebook and Twitter.

Amy of Anktangle writes about living with chronic pain and how she appreciates the ways her body functions in spite of its challenges. You can also find Amy on Facebook and Twitter.

Mari from Honey on the Bum talks a little bit about how her body has changed and how she loves it and what it does for her. You can also find Mari on Twitter.

Shannon at Pineapples & Artichokes talks about why she’s not worried about how her body looks, because it has a much more important job right now.

Joella from Fine and Fair discusses her love and respect for her body as it grows and changes during pregnancy over. Hear more from Joella on Twitter and Facebook.

Issa Waters at LoveLiveGrow on how Paganism taught her to accept reality and by extension herself and her body. Find her on Twitter and Facebook.

Amy W. at Me, Mothering, and Making it All Work shares about her love/hate relationship with a nose that she saw as ugly . . . until she started to learn to love it. Amy W. can also be followed on Twitter and Facebook.

Destany at They Are All of Me writes about releasing the negative notions she was taught about her period, and embracing it instead.

Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children talks about how she had to push through her pre-conditioned comfort level and found herself in a position to naturally be open and honest with her children. More great stuff from Mandy on Facebook.

Lauren at Hobo Mama is not a runner . . . but she proved herself wrong by completing a race. Keep up with Lauren’s adventures on Twitter and Facebook.

Comments

  1. It is quite a lovely nose. :)
    I also have a strange nose. Others refer to it is beaky. It’s long and pointy, has a hump on the top, and I have long nostrils that turn up a little. I always hated it and wished I could fix it. But like you, discovering that it was a strong part of my heritage taught me to love it. One family member off-handedly referred to it once as, “Oh, you got the Haney nose,” and then I found a photo of my grandfather when he was young and realized that I look quite a bit like him – especially the nose! And I loved it from that point forward.

  2. Hi there. Loved your post and loved how you linked it to my writing on Ashlee Simpson. Seriously, my kids have teased me that it ruined my year that Ashlee did that because I wanted her to lover herself as she was! Your writing is thoughtful and so fun to see the picture of you and your family (and your beautiful profile!).

    • I’m so glad you came by to comment when you saw my link-back! I loved what you had to say on the subject and KNEW that I had to link to your work when I wrote about this topic! Thanks for stopping by!

  3. I always wanted a nose like my Dad’s as a kid. He has a very Roman profile. :) Isn’t it funny how we learn not to be happy with what we have?

  4. Your nose is beautiful, Amy, and so are you! I love this piece. I know we all struggle at one time or another with a feature that doesn’t perfectly fit the societal norm of “beauty,” and I really appreciate how you’ve come to embrace your nose as an integral part of who you are. It is special, unique, and AMAZING.

    • It’s a struggle that we all have. . . I’m glad that I can share my perspective on it! Thank you for your loving comment, Amy R.! Love you too!

  5. I love that you have a goddess’ nose! How wonderful. :)

    We used to always make fun of my dad’s nose growing up for being so large — just in a joshing sort of way, but it was one of the standard family jokes. And then one day I realized: Oh, crap, I have the same nose! Ha ha. And so does my little brother. It really took realizing the genetics of it to turn me around to loving it, too. When I look in the mirror, I see part of my dad reflected back there, and that’s a good thing. And I wonder if one of my kids will also grow up with a little (big!! heh) piece of me right smack dab in the middle of their face.

    • That’s so funny that you later realized that genetics was causing you to be the butt of your own joke! <3 Once you think about it, it really is so special to be linked to your ancestors through traits – from noses to smiles, to abilities, etc!

  6. I love how you are embracing your individual beauty! That is something I struggle with and yet want to impart to my children.

  7. Issa Waters says:

    I LOVE this post! I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately about how to embrace the things about ourselves that are different from other people. Because of course the cultural/media ideal is that we all try to look like a single, narrow example that none of actually look anything like and can’t ever achieve. Your nose is awesome, and it’s awesome that you connect it back to your family, your history, your ancestors. Awesome. Thanks.

  8. Those Romans had it figured out. Full figured with prominent features. Tell me why we can’t go back to that? I think more of us would be happy with our looks, if that was the way.

  9. Wow, I am so in love with the idea of pondering the way our features connect us to our ancestors! I can’t believe I hadn’t considered that before!

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